I just had a mini-epiphany so I had to post before I forgot about it.
If you’re familiar with the martial art of Aikido – it is the art of using your opponent’s force against him. Aikido is performed by blending with the motion of the attacker and redirecting the force of the attack rather than opposing it head-on. This requires very little physical strength, as the aikidōka (aikido practitioner) “leads” the attacker’s momentum using entering and turning movements. The techniques are completed with various throws or joint locks
You can use the same philosophy to game life. I’m still afflicted by oneitis from a previous relationship. However – through my experiences – I have learned not to sit around, mope about it, and do nothing. In fact – I’ve been engaging heavily into forays into the online sphere of the SMP.
I’ve sent out countless emails and have received many, many replies. I’ve set up “dates” (for lack of a better) for more than a couple girls in a weekend. If one girl flakes, I’ve got another to take her place. I’m still learning the online game – but I am poised to gain from it soon.
The important thing I have noticed is that I generally don’t give a shit about any of the girls I interact with. I was pissed when one girl cancelled on a couple of things we were going to do – but I forgot about it the next day. I didn’t even bother replying to her afterwards and I don’t care if I talk to her every again.
The point I am making is – I’m getting natural aloofness and unneedyness from my oneitis poisoning. Something that is normally bad is actually a positive for me, in the right context.
None of the girls can compare to the idealized picture I have of my ex in my head. Kind of like how you can’t out-alpha Jesus Christ when it comes to those Church-going born again and again virgins.