A Short On Love

After a conversation with Ace, I’m starting to see things more clearly on love.

The first thing to consider is that the woman does not love as a man does. She may love you now, today, at this moment, but not tomorrow. She may say “I love you” just to hear the same from your mouth. Perhaps, because then she knows she has you. And if she does truly love you, it is not for the things you, as man, may wish she loved you for. You are not likely to be loved for your honor, your honesty, or valor. More likely, how you make her feel, your confidence, your utility, will draw her love.

I dare you to ask a past love why you earned hers. The answer may haunt you.

Woman love you because they should – not because they can or want to. They love for what they wish to be loved for. It is no longer a surprise to me that women cannot understand men who do not appreciate being used.

While it may hurt to understand this – the pain fades. The lesson I believe you should take from this.

“Find a use for the woman – or she’ll find a use for you.”

I am at this point still not sure how to tell a woman that I love her. In some circles, it is acceptable to say, “I love you too”. In others, nothing less witty than “I know” will do. Or perhaps one should reframe, redirect, redraw attention to another area. Specifically not the topic of love. All, it seems, agree that one should not say “I love you” first, no matter the cost.

The thing I notice – is that the answers given to the question “What do I say when she tells me she loves me” center how it will affect the woman. I have yet to see anything deal with how it affects the man.

To that – I ask a question. Forget the woman in this equation – do you want to go your entire life without telling a woman you love her?


A Question on The Anatomy of Female Power and Sperm Wars

A while back I read both The Anatomy of Female Power and Sperm Wars.

Both books were very interesting reads that I had a hard time putting down before I finished them.

The Anatomy of Female Power was interesting as it ribbed feminism, the men who allowed it to happen, and in my eyes switched the sexes around. It explained that while it appeared that men where hunting women, it was actually the other way around. In the book, women were hunting men to keep as servants and they used their looks and charm to accomplish that. Society in theory is constructed to aid this phenomenon and there is nothing men can do about it.

Sperm Wars doesn’t really discuss politics but rather sexual dynamics at the basest level. It examens things such as masturbation, the female orgasm, and different sexual strategies through the lens of each sex’s biological imperative. It talks about how men’s sperm often fights direct inside the womb of a woman to successfully inseminate her, the winner taking all and passing on his genes. It talks about how males compete with each other, and that everyone today is a descendant of the man who had the biggest dick. After reading this book I wanted to look everything through the lens of a biological imperative. Nearly everything is explained in this book.

The thing with both of these books is that they detail female mating strategies and their power over men and that’s all fine and well.

The one thing both books fail to discuss is the competition between women for the best mates. The Anatomy of Female Power (to my memory) fails to mention any competition between females and Sperm Wars only vaguely observes that women are attracted to men who have many partners for they have been proven to be biological success. Yet there is still no mention of how females compete between themselves.

For example, a woman may tell her friend that short hair is cute in order to gain an edge (men don’t like short hair).

Where is the discussion on intra-female competition?