After yesterday’s post, I did some more thinking.
While I did learn a lot dating Camera Whore’s best friend, I regretted going after her best friend early without first seeing how far I could get with Camera Whore. Part of the reason I didn’t try to get with Camera Whore was that I heard that she had a long distance boyfriend and had rejected many guys who asked her out to an upcoming dance. Sure enough, a week or two after I started dating her best friend, she started going out with one of my friends.
Reflecting on this revealed to me another lesson I could learn from. When deciding between a sure thing (a girl who’s interested in you) and a potential thing (a girl who might be interested in you), you should go for the sure thing every time. I believe it was [Redacted] who first said this.
However, when you are choosing between two girls for a long term relationship, you should never settle for anything less than the best. This is especially pertinent for marriage, if you ever decide to cross that Rubicon. Only women settle, because they can’t do better than what their looks can provide them.
Because men can improve their worth until well into their twilight years, they should settle for nothing less than the best. The best one can get changes over time. And if you’re doing it right, the best you can get will get better and better.
~Wald
An interesting distinction.
I used to be pissed off when this hot girl in my high school class would get picked up by her 20 year old boyfriend on his motorcycle. Then I got older and realized how he was kind of a loser, but all the guys in my high school didn’t approach her or didn’t have enough to offer her, so of course she chose the 20 year old with a motorcycle.
In your situation, merely the right eye contact/flirting/aloofness almost had her sitting in your lap and loving every second of it. I did the same with a bartender who was a friend of a friend and I was well out of school by then. So frustrating to look back and realize that, but at the same time very enlightening for the future.
Yeah. Reflecting on your comment made me realize that everybody probably took her “long distance boyfriend” at face value.
When I finally dated her best friend, thus marking my interest elsewhere (or making myself forbidden), I imagine she must have felt pressure (her less pretty friend has a 10th grader boyfriend, why don’t I?) and made herself more receptive at the next party she was at.